Archive for December, 2010


Resolutions? I only have one…

December 31, 2010

… and it’s a whopper.

In 2011 I resolve to create beauty in all aspects of my life.


For 38 years I have lived a pretty utilitarian life. I do what I need to do. I am quite efficient. I am very hard on myself when it comes to the things that I have to do – but I am overly gentle on myself beyond that.

(I think that’s a euphemism for lacking discipline…)

My life is happy and I have everything I could ever hope for. Of course, I aspire to improvements, but I can’t find fault in any of the basics!

Making a meaningful resolution required some thought. Of course I could say diet, exercise, blah blah blah but how genuine is that? That would guarantee I would totally fail by January 5th and spark a shame spiral that but me in a worse state as far as my physical health.

Instead I am resolving to create beauty in all of the already wonderful parts of my life. Getting on the exercise bike will help create a more beautiful body. Making food that is beautiful and creative will help cut down on my mindless snacking. Keeping a beautiful home will keep me on task when I don’t want to pick up the clothes drifts that accumulate on the floor on my side of the bed. Learning photography will help me see the beauty that surrounds me, if I just look close enough. Keeping connected with all my beautiful friends and family makes for beautiful memories and relationships. Being mindful and meditative of my daily chores will help me stay appreciative of all I have and maintain this home that I love.

So my resolution is singular but will impact everything in my life. My life is very good – and it deserves to be as beautiful as can be – because everyone in it, even me, deserves it.

So, what are your resolutions?


M.O.B. Rules

December 28, 2010

While my mom is here visiting we are going with Rachel to try on wedding dresses. (breeeaaaaathe!) It makes sense that while we are they we should also look at some dresses for my mom.

Have you ever seen traditional “Mother of the Bride” dresses??

One word:  ghastly.

My mom is petite and adorable and unconventional and outdoorsy. There is no way I can see her in get-ups such as these…

Dowdy, shapeless, overwrought, swamping the poor tiny woman in massive yards of fabric!

Or this… WHOSE MOTHER LOOKS LIKE THIS? And is she paying for the reception with happy endings?

After some discussion we have decided: short, fitted, dark, silk, with cap sleeves. Something tells me we aren’t going to find it in a bridal boutique.

Any success stories in finding dresses that made your moms look beautiful and awesome and age-appropriate (NOT OLD) please let me know!


Christmas Eve eve dinner with friends

December 24, 2010

Last night we had some great friends over for a dinner party. What a great time we had!

Gifts were wrapped and piled up under the tree

The table was set

We had loads of delicious food

We had great guests

Scott made a roast

And I made a lentil loaf

We ate til we were stuffed. We exchanged some gifts. Much fun was had by all!

Can’t wait to do it again next year!

The California (soon to be) Conforti’s holiday tradition #1.


p.s. THIS is why I have always wanted a real dining room!


The Big To-Do: Christmas homestretch edition

December 22, 2010

The days are getting fewer and my To-Do List is getting longer because Christmas Eve is the day after tomorrow! YAY!

This morning I knocked one very random thing off my list – I sewed a button back on my coat. Why that took me 2 weeks to do, I shall never know – but sometimes it’s exactly those random chores that get you going to knock out the stuff that’s really pressing.

To-Do: December 22nd, 2010

  1. Finish up shopping for those last sniggly gifts and stocking stuffers
  2. Grocery store
  3. Decide on menu for Pre-Christmas Dinner with friends (I should probably do that before the store!)
  4. WRAP PRESENTS (it kind of sucks to have a mountain of gifts in my bedroom and nothing under the tree)
  5. Baking (Fiona and Lucas have been slacking in their goody baking for their friends – sheesh)
  6. Get The Child’s room ready for my mommy’s visit!

No problem, right? HA!


p.s. I am getting very adventurous with my newfound love of wearing tights.

p.p.s. I think GI Joe (the one with the fuzzy beard and kung fu grip) was on the train this morning.


Is it wrong to take pictures of random strangers who resemble action figures and post them on the interwebs? And do I really care? 😀



Ohhh, Tannenbaum!

December 20, 2010

Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you our 2010 Christmas tree!

I think it’s the most beautiful tree I’ve ever had – and it’s doubly super special because it’s our first tree together. We put it up on November 29th. We just couldn’t get it up fast enough! 😀

I think there’s something to be said for your first tree as a couple…

The day after Christmas I will be stocking up on snowman, Cubs, Blackhawks and Bears ornaments because someone isn’t as equally represented ornament-wise yet!


Postscript regarding fights

December 14, 2010

Our conversation on Sunday night had consequences better than I could have ever imagined…

The Child powered through a mountain of homework that I never thought she’d finish. Not only did she finish it, she finished it before her bed time and did a good job of it! I can’t remember the last time I saw her so genuinely proud of herself. She was downright giddy! (So was I!!)

I think that for the first time she figured out how to buckle down and get her stuff done without lollygagging, getting distracted, messing around, or goofing off. She discovered just how fast she really CAN do her homework – and how amazing it feels to sit down, do a good job, and be done. DONE!

And we were both rewarded with something that has been very rare indeed… pure, unadulterated, happy cuddling. 


… comes in threes

December 13, 2010

You know how people say that bad things come in threes? Good things can come in threes, too.

1. Lights

When I arrived home last night to find this masterpiece, created by The Man, I was overcome with absolute joy! My almost-nonexistent inner child leapt and cavorted about with unbridled glee!

2. Tights

While quite pedestrian for most, the wearing of colored tights is a real fashion stretch for me. They make me happy. I may make tights my winter signature this year.

I also managed to get out the door this morning wearing perfume and thoughtfully picked out jewelry!

3. Fights (or lack thereof)

The Child and I had a genuine, productive discussion last night about buckling down, staying on task, and meeting academic expectations. I didn’t raise my voice. I didn’t feel like I was nagging her. She was listening. She participated in an authentic dialog. Afterwords she settled in and got some very good work done.


That totally makes the fact that The Dog has fleas from all his digging in the sand much easier to tolerate 😛

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