Lessons Learned

March 21, 2011

This weekend I had grand plans to accomplish a million things, but I barely touched my To-Do list.

I did manage to fill the kitchen for the next two weeks, get the bare minimum of house-keeping done, and take care of three horses (but no time to ride even though the sun was out on Sunday).

In the future, even when I plan to have a lot of time to myself, I am going to refrain from list-making. The incomplete items overshadow the things that I did get done and I ended my day on Sunday in a rather foul and resentful mood.

I am learning that I can no longer run run run run without running out of gas. My work-weeks are the same each day: rise, shower, pack breakfast and lunch, commute, work, commute, work out, make dinner, go to bed. On the weekends I try to pack in all the neglected household chores, errands, and fun freedom I don’t have during the week.

I should have been able to get everything accomplished that I planned. But it rained. A LOT. Mucking and grooming 3 horses took a lot longer than I thought. My attitude began to work against me in ways I didn’t anticipate.

Something has to give.

I have to learn to be reasonable with my expectations because setting myself up for failure doesn’t do anyone any favors. Most especially the people I live with. If I were to make a To-Do list (which I won’t) I need to build in time to do nothing – and I need to be ok doing nothing when there are things still left to do.

Do you do that, too? Do you only allow yourself to relax once everything is finished?

Yeah, that’s not really fair to yourself, is it?

I did manage to get the bedroom about 80% completed. And I am very happy with it (post to come once I deem it “complete”).

I do also need to acknowledge that my adventures in decorating have become so much easier. The agony I previously endured over every minute decision has been replaced with a stunning efficiency and confidence. Even my crafty ideas are translating much easier in to reality. My headboard turned out exactly as I envisioned – and it cost $29.

Another good thing I eked out of an otherwise frustrating weekend was a long, hot bath. Intoxicating were the vanilla-verbena bath salts in the water and the cold pina colada in my hand…. yes, that’s the kind of thing that belongs on a To-Do list.

Oh… and I also learned that I cannot eat things out of a bag. There is just no stopping my gluttony if it involves my hand reaching in to a bag for something.

Not all lessons have to be earth-shattering, right?




  1. I wanted to say I don’t… but then remembered that I JUST DID THAT ON SATURDAY! I had plans to relax and see a movie with the boy-man-pre-teen… I know it’s lame to “plan to relax”, but when my scheduled relax time went wonky and I was veering off the schedule I quickly went head-on into “Crabby Patty” land. AND about 3 heart beats away from a real live freak-out, I turned the car around went back home and started over. That ended up meaning I took a nap, woke up and… voila! all things daisy again. The boy-man-pre-teen was absolutely happy to go in another direction as well. I love how bendy he is 

    • A nap probably would have been a good idea. I did give myself a half hour time-out yesterday. I was still gloomy afterwards, but I was no longer PISSED, so it was an improvement. 😉

  2. That whole scenario infects much of American culture / society. In society’s view, it’s not ok to relax, to take personal time. There are always tasks at the wait and stuff that needs to get done. We all struggle with it in some way or another, I imagine.

    BUT, I want pics of the headboard…

    • Patience… I need to get some drapes up and there’ll be a headboard post. I kind of love it.

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